I am so blessed. I want to record all of the specific ways God has worked throughout this adoption journey here in one place. I never want to forget how his hand has guided me in this process. Throughout the last 5 years I've felt his "wink" of approval (if you will) and over the last 3 months it has been so strong I couldn't deny God was in control.
Fall 2005...God places me in a wonderful school, with a great team, and a Christian principal. I know with the support I have there I can pursue being a single mom. Achieve National Board Certification which gives me a nice yearly bonus that will go towards funding my adoption.
February 2006...Completed my 2005 tax returns and received a refund with exactly the amount (within a few dollars) to pay off my car and pay for the $250 application to my adoption agency
Placed on singles waiting list
September 2006...Begin paperwork/paper chase/paper pregnancy
January 2007...Met another adoptive mom (a stranger) in a store and discovered many similarities.We are both teachers, single, and will name our daughters very similar names.
February 25, 2007 Log in Date
mid 2007...China closes doors to single parent applicants, but I'm in through the old rules!!!! Had I waited any longer to begin the process I would not have been able to adopt from China.
June 2007...Received a $3,000 grant!
Read blogs, start researching and studying adoption, meet many wonderful adoptive families...start to consider special needs
Spring 2009...start to look for a house
find a great foreclosure that puts me in an older and nicer neighborhood I would not have thought of originally.
Close on my house, it's located on the exact street I used to babysit for several families many years ago. I know my neighbors!!
November 2009...complete special needs application, feeling confident that this is where my daughter is
View 5 different files of children before I see my daughter. Not accepting those children was heart wrenching, but necessary in order to find Molly.
February 2010...finally see Molly's face
fellow adoptive mom puts me into contact with other adoptive parents who have children with similar needs.
Things go smoothly, paperwork completed and filed, showers are planned, home is prepared
* God shows me one of the girls I had looked at before I saw Molly... she has a family! I'm truly at peace knowing he's working every detail out!*
Eddie is able to go with me to China...a blessing!
My greatest fear is financial...The end of the journey is the most expensive!
April 11, 2010...have large friend/family shower and have a "money tree". over
$1,200 is given!!!!!!!!!
Flight tickets are reserved, agency calls to tell me my rountrip ticket is
$1,233.00!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
April 20, 2010...go to the mailbox and open a check for
$836.33 (
I was not expecting this, but it is a refund from my Escrow acct. from last year) Molly's plane ticket is
$833.00!!!!!!!!!!!!
Finally, I needed about $7,500 to take to China...the week I got my referral in February I had a minor flood in my home. It was a nightmare, but maybe a blessing in disguise at the time. The work was not done properly and the company refunded me $632.50 plus my Insurance readjusted the damage and added $1,475 to the original estimate. My tax return gave me $1,140 dollars back and my NB mentoring job paid me $750 for the work from last year. That totals
half of what I need. The remainder I had already saved.
I'm only documenting this because the money was my biggest fear at this point in the journey. People said "it will come" and I thought, no...that never happens to me! How often do you just "find" money you were not expecting? But it truly did come to me that way. I know it was God working it out for me.
It's not to say I still haven't had to charge many agency fees over the last few months and I still have carpet that looks like *?!*, but I can live with it for while longer until we are back from China and have recovered a bit financially.
There were SO MANY "God winks" on this journey. Too many to list, but hopefully I've recorded them throughout the journey and will remember when I needed an encouragement from HIM, he was here in HIS perfect timing.
The road to and through international adoption is
overwhelming at times! Add to that, as a single person, I felt like it was/is all on my shoulders. It is only me who can be responsible for filing the paperwork, keeping things in order, packing the right things, taking the right amount of money, sending things in correctly. Looking back, now I can just say....wheeewwww! I did it! I'm so glad I'm here looking back at what has been accomplished. I'm not saying this to be boastful, but I'm only saying this to remember it was hard, overwhelming, but doable.
As I closed school yesterday and left everything in the hands of my Interim Teacher, I felt such a relief. A relief of leaving the stresses of school and work to look forward with expectation at what is about to happen in a matter of days for me. I'm so ready. I'm at peace. My principal took me and my Assistant Principal in his office and prayed for me, my trip, and for Molly. What a true gift!
Finally, I'll close with a fun fact! Madison was born on March 3rd, Little Eddie was born on August 3rd, and God seeing fit to include Molly with her cousins has chosen May 3rd to be the first day I meet her! Molly Day is May 3rd!! In his sovereignty he has also "arranged" for me to actually have my daughter the week before Mother's Day! What a true gift!
