Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Happy 4th Birthday, Madison

With all of the Referral excitement and home re-do's going on I almost failed to post about sweet Madison's 4th birthday!!!  First, let's take a look  back...
Her 1st Birthday, 2007
Her 2nd Birthday, 2008
Her 3rd Birthday, 2009
And this year, her 4th birthday, 2010
She would not let me take a picture of her :(
She had a strawberry shortcake jumphouse party.  This was the closest I could get for a picture!  Better luck next year!

Strawberry Shortcake Jumphouse

Monday, March 8, 2010

It's Official!!!

I'm overjoyed to finally be able to introduce my daughter to all my friends in blogland, facebook, and the rest of cyperspace!!  Today I received the call that said China has officially agreed to allow me to adopt Molly.  This is called RA (Referral Acceptance) or LOA (Letter of Acceptance). 
Molly
(Tong Tong)
Birthdate:  9/19/2008
Jiujiang City, Jiangxi Province
currently living in the 
Jiujiang Social Welfare Institute, Jiangxi, China
Of course, when I saw this picture I was smitten!  The hair, the eyes, the pink ruffle dress!!!  Is she my daughter or what?
Then I saw this one...oh the smile!  She looks happy, that makes me happy!
Then this one, again...the face, the cheeks!  Oh, I can't wait to get my hands on her!
Here are my stats for fellow adoptive moms in waiting:
LID  2/25/2007
EA (electronic acceptance) 2/5/2010
PA (pre approval)  2/25/2010
RA (referral acceptance)  3/8/2010

The next step is to sign and return the RA and then wait for TA (travel approval).  My agency says I should travel by mid-late April!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Yikes!  I have so much to do.  

I do have some updated pictures, but I'm going to let you stare at these for a while before I show you the new ones. 

Sunday, March 7, 2010

Renovations...harder than it seems

Ok, I'm well into my bathroom re-do.  I can't wait to have my house back together!  Between the bathroom and the floors still awaiting padding my house is a total disaster and I hate living in chaos!!  It makes me unsettled and I can't relax.  At all!  I have not had the TV on all weekend because I've been crammed into Molly's bathroom getting it ready for her.  A cause worthy of my hard work and 'antsy-ness' for sure, but still I'm so tired and I need another week off.

The good news is Spring Break is next week!  Yeah for me!  The bad news is that I have about 167 things to do in 5 short days.  This is why I began the bathroom this weekend...hoping to get a head start.

Before...tired maple cabinet, large gold framed mirror from 1988, plain white walls
Pink Tools, Paint Choices, and Inspirational Magazine
A soft shade of antique cream...not too yellow, not too gray
Behr @ Home Depot:  Cozy Cottage seems just right
Trim around mirror removed
Taking precautions before I start pulling the mirror down...I'm not sure how it's attached to the wall.
 
With a couple pulls it is down and I didn't even break it!  So happy about that!  And, as an added bonus The wall didn't tear up too much.

Paint Central
It is half done.  I have painted the walls and cabinets, now I am going to hang bead board wall paper on the bottom half, paint it white, and add trim through the middle and top of the walls.  I'll hopefully get that done this week.  Then I will have a new light fixture hung, the new mirror, and new faucets installed.  Oh how I wish I was a natural "handywoman" and could do those more difficult things myself!  One thing is for sure, when I get my house together, it will be a LONG time before I begin a new project!

I scream, you scream, we all scream for ice cream!

Ice cream break at Aunt Amy's House!
(Yes, I made them eat on the kitchen floor.  They are messy!)
I love them to pieces!

pet peeve!



do you have people who do this in your city?  you see the girl standing with a poster beside the red car...  here's another look


These kids (teenager I suppose) were surrounding this very busy intersection with posters begging for money.  I didn't pay attention long enough to see what they were "raising" money for.  But it's usually cheerleading, football leagues, or some travel baseball team that needs money.  They carry buckets around to car windows asking for donations and for some reason every time I see them it really crawls all over me!  I have no problem raising money for these kinds of needs, but for goodness sakes can we teach our children to "earn" these generous donations.  Wash a car, rake leaves, pick up trash, paint a garage, have a bake sale, ....etc.  Just DO something.  Honestly I'd be more inclined to give the local alcoholic/drug addicted/homeless person my money than these healthy, capable kids wasting their time on a beautiful Saturday when they could be actually LEARNING THE VALUE OF A DOLLAR! 

One day I'm going to get the courage to ask one of the adults with them if they could come to my house and work in my yard with me.  Then I'd be more than happy to make a generous donation!!!!!!!!!

I also have to wonder...and this is a whole new can of worms to open, but how many of these kids are A/B students? 

ok, that's it.  one of my #1 pet peeves.  I hope it wasn't your kids out there this weekend!

Friday, March 5, 2010

my daily schedule

Show Us Your Life with Kelly's Korner
I love visiting Kelly's blog each day just to see what she and Harper are up to.  I don't often participate in the show us your life weekly link ups, but I thought this week's theme is quite fitting.  This week the theme is:
Show Us Your Life, What is your Daily Schedule Like?

I'm sort of obsessed with scheduling and making lists for myself, my day, my classroom, my goals, etc.  This is NOT to say these lists get accomplished in a timely fashion!  It just makes me feel somewhat organized to have a plan.  In preparing for what my future is about to hold for me, I thought I'd share a schedule of what I will attempt to have when Ms. Molly is finally home!  Being a single mom, I know sticking with the schedule will be the key indicator to my success each day!  Not everyday will be perfect, however I hope in staying within this routine Molly will get acclimated to her new home and family and this will bring forth some great attachment for us both!  I can't wait to have something to look forward to after school besides going to a quiet, empty home and watching Oprah all by myself!  (Did that sound like heaven to you mom's out there?  ha!)  People often say, "you'll never eat in peace again" and all I can say is I really hope not!  I have prepared (as much as possible) for this moment in my life.  I never thought I would be a first time mom at 35, I felt like I could have done it at 15! ha!  And I definitely NEVER thought I'd be a single 35 year old first time mom!!!!

My Daily Schedule (M-F through the school year)
5:00  Get up, shower/makeup/hair/get dressed
6:15  Make breakfast for Molly and me, eat mine first, plan for dinner (start crock pot, lay out frozen foods, etc.)
6:30  Get Molly up, wash up, dress, eat her breakfast, pack up for daycare
7:10  Leave home for daycare
7:30  Leave daycare for school
(My school day starts at 7:45 with kids arriving and unpacking while I'm preparing for the day, we get started after announcements and pledges around 8:15 each morning, and most days I am driving out of the parking lot at 3:15 p.m.  The occasional faculty meeting or parent conference sometimes delays this timing.  I learned a long time ago that I could stay at school until 7pm or later every night of the week, but kids and parents don't really care about that at all.  The only thing that suffers is my life.  So I use my time during the day to do any and all paperwork and grading.  I train trustworthy parents to grade for me if they volunteer and it just gets done.  I almost never take anything home.  ever.  I could, but I won't.  If it doesn't get done, it doesn't get done.  I DO NOT stress over it and I WILL NOT let it rule my life.  I only say that b/c I know there are teachers out there who struggle with this all the time.  My personal time at home is for me.  I feel I'm a better teacher because I leave it all at school!)
3:15  Use this time for a quick grocery trip, bank run, post office, other errands, etc.
3:30-3:45  Pick up Molly from daycare
4:00  Arrive home, unpack car, get mail, change clothes, start dinner, play with Molly, take a walk, etc.
5:00  Eat Supper, Play
6:00  Bathtime, dry hair,get ready for bed, pick up Molly's room together, read stories, pray
7:00 Bedtime for Molly
Use this time to clean up kitchen, put food away, prepare lunch, do laundry, blog, watch tv, etc.
9:00 Bedtime for me!  This will be crucial!  Now, I get stuck on the computer and the next thing I know it's almost midnight and I'm still up.  I cannot let time get away from me like that.

Do it all over again the next day!

Saturdays will be our day to grocery shop together and visit the grandmas (her great-grandmas).  Right now I go to one of my grandma's each week (usually Wednesdays after school) to help her with her bills, money, appointments, and medicine sorting for the week.  I will continue to do this with Molly on Saturdays because my grandma (who is 88 years old) will be so excited to see her each week!  I believe it is also important for her to learn that we help our family out and we respect and love our grandparents by visiting them often.  That is how I was raised.  She will actually see my other grandmother every day b/c she works at the daycare with my mom.  I am so blessed that Molly will be taken care of each day by her grandmother and her great grandmother!  Saturdays will also be our shopping/haircut/misc.day.  I will try not to pack too much into these days because I believe time at home is so important, but I will have to build some of this into our routine.

Sundays will be our day for worship of course and I CAN'T WAIT to dress her for church each week.  I know church is not about your clothes, but I always was decked out for Sunday church (thanks to my granny for making every dress I owned until I was about 8 years old...hand smocking and everything! and thanks to my mom for caring enough to roll my hair every Saturday night in those little pink sponge rollers that hurt so bad when you slept in them you thought they were permanently indented into your scalp!  She wanted me to look like Shirley Temple but my hair is so straight!!!)  We will also use Sundays to rest, plan, and prepare for the week.  This is my afternoon to iron and get all of my clothes ready for the week and I'll do the same when Molly is here.


I've been practicing this schedule some lately and during the times when I will "be with Molly" I've been trying to go to her room and pray for her as I sort through books, or clothes, or just sit in there and imagine what it all will be like.  Sometimes it's scary, sometimes it's fun, but it's always exciting when I think of my preparations for her.  The good news is that I'll have the summer to get us both ready for this schedule in August.  I'm going to try and get into a scheduled routine when we return from China, because I know that is how children feel the most attached and settled.  It will be interesting to look back at this post in September and see how it compares...only time will tell!

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Demolition and Renovation...


Well, because my house isn't enough of a disaster with the bedroom floors still undone from the flood of 2010 I went into my guest bathroom last night on a whim (and a little out of boredom) and started demolition!!!  It's exciting!  I have had ongoing plans for this bathroom since I moved in and really wanted to get it done before Molly comes home.  So I thought what better time to start than now?  Everything is cleared and cleaned out of the bathroom, the cabinet doors and drawers are all off the hinges and I have successfully taken down the mirror WITHOUT breaking it!  What a huge success!  I will write more about those details later! 

I have purchased all of the paint and supplies...I'm working on a very tight budget so this little space didn't require a whole lot!  While it is in progress I am taking pictures to keep track of all the steps for you all, but I thought I'd show you some pretty pictures of my "fantasy" bathrooms for your enjoyment while you wait!!!

This is so gorgeous with the natural light from the windows...my guest bathroom has no windows, so the lighting is a bit off.
I am painting my cabinets (currently maple) white and changing the knobs to some just like these.  I wish I could afford new marble countertops like these, but they will have to wait until much later.
I'm painting my walls a creamy color like these two pictures above.  I'm debating on adding beadboard wallpaper to my cabinet doors....tbd
I'm adding beadboard wallpaper and chair rail to my walls like this.  I have a built in medicine cabinet like this that I will paint and leave the door off.  So cute.
Well, enjoy!  I will keep you updated on my improvements...pray for no catastrophes!!!
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